dishonor (greek meaning) ~ mist, steam
HONOR is a decision we make to place high value, worth, & importance on another person by viewing him/her as a priceless gift & granting him/her a position in our lives worthy of great respect; & LOVE involves that decision into action.
Dishonoring is trading in the permanent for the immediate!!!! =O
fr: the Gift of Honor by Gary Smalley & John Trent
matt 6:21
honor your parents ...
*increases own self-worth
*gives understanding of your own gender 'fit in'
*less physical stress
*light heart
I love my parents and feel that I am conscious of what I need to do to honor them. I am actively working on honoring them. My thoughts went to a loved one who shared with me his frustrations when it comes to his parents. I wondered how I myself would respond to his mother and his father if I had the chance. After some daythinking, I realized I need to work on honoring my grandma. I find it a bit challenging when my weight is an issue everytime I visit. My daythoughts went on to figure out how to honor her.
I strongly believe that one can keep a balance. Giving honor and yet not allowing the hurtful things they say harm me. It is a puzzle though. God is the Source of love and all my love comes from Him. So it can be done.
honor your trials ...
"Every trial comes gift-wrapped w/ a treasure ready to be found inside."
*keep a calm 1st response
*keep tabs on thinking & emotional process
*declare treasure victory
-->joy, sensitivity, humility, muturity, endurance drawing together, loving...
I know this first hand when I lost my job. I found myself on a new and exciting JOY journey. It was painful, but I would never trade it. It was like a seed busting up through the dirt. Now that my seedling has spouted, I welcome all my new journeys. The growing pains are still there, yet I am eager to learn more. You can't learn without trials.
Then I am confronted with a war story. One soldier uses his battle days and loss of life as inspiration and where the other soldier is plagued post-tramic-symdrome. How does one soldier go on unaffected and the other bogged down in his thoughts? Isn't this something to do with being able to honor your trials?
honor your bent & strengths ... your best you ... as well as in others!
I feel strongly about knowing yourself. You are going through life with yourself you better know what you stand for and who you are at your very core. I love knowing and discovering how I tick. I loved reading about personality and discovering mine. I loved reading about the love languages and discovering mine. I loved reading about the 7+ smarts and discovering mine. I did not stop there. I did my own discovering of the different parts of every human and how that relates to the relationships. I use all that I have learned about myself to stand firm in my strengths. I know my weak parts too. When I keep myself balanced and keep life simple, I am in my best place and I can give of the very best of me.
I am a quiet person ... ok shy ... and I very fine with that because as I age like fine wine, God is more and more my Confidence. My personality is more bubbly shy and others are feeling more and more comfortable around me. This is truly a God-Victory.
honor the balance of belonging ... (home)
*praise, appreciation, listening
*well-defined purpose for home
*feels shared burden for others
.. & independence ...
*weaning
*age appropriate choices
*goal making
*promote landmark ages & accomplishments
I live in both. For being a rather shy girl, I was never homesick at camp and even with college. I got along fine. I did have my moments when life got rough, but I stuck it out. I have lived a life that is rather alone for most. No wonder independence is apart of my fabric. I am a first born and a girl so I am keenly aware of home and family. Boy, do I like belonging =)
So here is my hangup... I struggle with journeying along with someone and they leave for whatever reason. I hold teamship as a top priority. It is a must. I die a bit inside when there are forks in my road that take my companionships.
Recently, there was a fork at work. I kept reminding myself to honor the belonging and her independence. It was sad to see her leave for another job, but I wanted to honor her journey. Never gets easier.
honor loving bounderies ...
*provides: love, security, discipline, protects, absolutes
*Q's: Who am I? Whom do I want to please?
What should I accomplish? How am I doing?
*know the dangers of inflated self
*keep your identity in Christ
*you have a name to live up to - protect that name
So what does your name have to do with loving boundaries? In a life of faith there are some basic loving boundaries set up by our Loving Father in His Love Letter to us. In His Words have you ever noticed all the 'his name shall be' and those names He changed? There is power in our names even unto this day. Within our names is our life journey that He created uniquely for us which include loving boundaries personal to us.
My love of names must have come from knowing how I got mine. My first name comes from my father and my midde name from my mother. Not many have my name and that is pretty ok with me. I like unique. My name means 'dark valley' and to most that might not be a good way to start a journey. My dark valley was the melancholy that touched me during my childhood years all the way through my twenties and early thirties. I was searching to mean something and just could not get it all together. 2003 dawned a turning point in my journey. God renamed me and only He and I know His pet name for me. In terms you can understand my name is 'from a deep dark valley blooms His joyful one'.
My journey is uniquely created for me. I know where my boundaries are. I know my personal tipping point or hot spots that I truly need to be on guard. I also have found security as I reach out through my shy. My shyness has been a real boundary protector. I know that I could have gotten into a lot of trouble without it. It also has taught me how to listen and how to be a 'sensitive'.
My parents named me but God knew my name before they even knew each other. He knew my course and He came through to build upon my name to let me know His attention to detail. What a brilliant God He is. I want to make Him proud.
honor tenderness, mercy, & lovingkindness ...
God give us freedom to choose patterns that lead to { promotes } life { love, joy, beauty }
Life, love, joy, and beauty are a privilege and we should choose to conduct ourselves in that matter. Instead hurt and anger rule the land. We let it seep in and before you know our hurt and anger has turned into slander and murder. We must fight for honor above all else. We must choose life. It blooms in tenderness, mercy, and lovingkindness.
honor God ...
The Lord is the Source of Honor, the One from whom it flows. He is the Power Source where we can love others.
Honoring God has been a journey. Looking back I didn't know I would love Him more now than before. I press forward excited to love Him more. He has done great and mighty wonders in my life. I am not alone. I am blooming. I have a God-Given Purpose for my life to live out. I know why I am here even when I get forgetful about this. That is when I get back in the Source and draw upon Him. I want to overflow with His Love.
tank'en on love: covenant blessing
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