Why dating?
* To learn about the Person, Personality, & Philosophy ..
Dating provides an opportunity to break down this perception and to help one learn to see others as persons rather than objects. The personality reveals the nature of our uniqueness, and the philosophy reveals the values by which we live our lives. All of these are discovered, ... as we come close and begin to interact witheach other.
Why is dating so important?
Because it gives us a means of connecting with others as persons. Our society increasingly pushes us to live in cocoons, but our isolation has brought us to growing levels of loneliness, emptiness, and sometimes desperation. Dating is an acceptable way of breaking out of isolation and connecting with others.
* To see our Strengths & Weaknesses ..
(Interacting) .. provokes healthy self - analysis and brings greater self - understanding. We recognize that some traits are more desirable than others. The knowldge of a weakness is the first step toward growth. (Maturity is not flawlessness.)!
* To practice Serving others ..
Service is life's highest calling. Dating is always a two-way street. Certainly we receive something from the relationship, but we are also to be contributing to the life of the one whom we are dating.
* To discover the person we will marry ..
One who has limited dating experience may after marriage be plagued with the thought, 'what are the other men/women like? Would I have had a better marriage with another type of mate?'
Dating provides the context for exploring answers to these questions and determining our suitability for marriage.
fr: The Five Love Languages for Singles by Gary Chapman
I hate dating plain and simple. I do believe with Gary that this is the best opportunity to discover others and discover ourselves. However, to do so in the dating scene is like juggling a tennis ball and a basketball.
Instead of dating every friendship or acquaintance shows me the strengths and weaknesses in me. I learn how to serve others and I discover the person I will marry.
In fact I have my own formula on knowing Mr Keeper when he walks into my world. So why did I think the above was worth jotting down? Because today dating seems to be more about making people objects than humans. For those so do like to date, this could very well be a wake up call.
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