-The legend goes that if you are lost on the deep seas there is a man .. a fisherman .. who will stay with you, whispering in your ear to hang on and that he will be there until help arrives. -
This is how the movie begins and ends. A movie that I rate a solid 10. The message of teamwork and the value of life gripped my heart. Hope it grips yours too.
*******
''How do you know who to save?''
''Everyone has their own method. For me I swim as fast as I can and take the weakest person and the sea takes the rest.''
*******
''So what was your record? Was it 300 or merely 200?''
''22''
''What only 22 saves? Wow!''
''The only record I keep is how many I lost.''
*******
A movie of the makings of a rescuer from the beginning through the ending and the tough work in between. A movie that you can take with you. A movie that you can challenge your own life. Are you for yourself or are you willing to be your brother's keeper?
-The legend goes that if you are lost on the deep seas there is a man .. a fisherman .. who will stay with you, whispering in your ear to hang on and that he will be there until help arrives. A guardian -
movie review : step up
Saturday, September 30, 2006
Thursday, September 28, 2006
missing his spirit ...
Overheard in a conversation b/t widows:
Irwin's spirit :
*very open and inviting .. this was what drew Terry into his world. He had this energy that was so strong and it pulled you into his love for animals and his favorite crocs. I love hearing their love story ... over and over and over ....
*private .. wow! He was such an open man yet he had talked with his wife about his death and wanting to keep it private. She honors his wish by not saying where he is buried and keeping the memorial more low key than what he could have had and more like Steve himself.
*his sence of legacy / a sence of a limited life span but not a limited life
He prepared for his zoo after he was gone. He even prepared his wife for his death yet that was not his focus ... life was. He also made it clear that he would step away when his kids could carry on his legacy. Truly a man prepared and wise.
perspective on the Bob incident :
Yeah, the one where Steve was carrying Bob at one month too near the crocs they say. I see it as a really cool memory for Bob to carry with him. Bob has his dad flowing through him but won't be able to remember him or even have some cool memories like his big sis.
I never got to know my Grandpa L but I have some story-memories told to me by my parents. I was his favorite and I have two precious stories that keep him warm and alive to me. So same with Bob! He will be able to carry his dad's memory with such a neat and intimate father son moment. Precious!
20/20 interview
true blue oz
'What I miss most is her spirit.'I got the tissues ready to watch the Terry Irwin interview with Barbara Walters. I have always secretly admired the Irwin's relationship and family. And yes, tis true .. the spirit of the person is what is missed.
Irwin's spirit :
*very open and inviting .. this was what drew Terry into his world. He had this energy that was so strong and it pulled you into his love for animals and his favorite crocs. I love hearing their love story ... over and over and over ....
*private .. wow! He was such an open man yet he had talked with his wife about his death and wanting to keep it private. She honors his wish by not saying where he is buried and keeping the memorial more low key than what he could have had and more like Steve himself.
*his sence of legacy / a sence of a limited life span but not a limited life
He prepared for his zoo after he was gone. He even prepared his wife for his death yet that was not his focus ... life was. He also made it clear that he would step away when his kids could carry on his legacy. Truly a man prepared and wise.
perspective on the Bob incident :
Yeah, the one where Steve was carrying Bob at one month too near the crocs they say. I see it as a really cool memory for Bob to carry with him. Bob has his dad flowing through him but won't be able to remember him or even have some cool memories like his big sis.
I never got to know my Grandpa L but I have some story-memories told to me by my parents. I was his favorite and I have two precious stories that keep him warm and alive to me. So same with Bob! He will be able to carry his dad's memory with such a neat and intimate father son moment. Precious!
20/20 interview
true blue oz
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
anatomy of the dispute ...
She asked a very plain and simple question. He projected what he thought was a problem and raised his voice and disrespected her. She used some code words that would get his attention later in an email. All she wanted to do was to call attention to his disrespect and his anger that was uncalled for especially in the company of others. He laid into her for not treating him as an adult and for not being a cheerleader. Distance became the safe place to be.
Looking back he projected a lot of what he thought on how she would respond. The more he could project the more he made it out that she did wrong.
Anger is a secondary response. Everything in the relationship up to this point was ok. (not super fine but ok- no issues on the radar). So why did he respond in anger when she asked the question? The question was asked very innocently and no agenda. She was hurt by his disrespect and his refusal to allow her to say anything. This is the beginning point. So why was he so angry?
Was there something bothering him about her or was he feeling overwhelmed with his own personality and being an adult now with responsibilities? He is studying to be a licensed physiologist. Isn’t he going to need some skills in communicating without projecting your own fears and rational into the issue at hand?
She has been searching for the right way to mend fences. So with anger being a secondary emotion and getting the feeling that he is overwhelmed and searching his own path in the adult world and owning his personality strengths and weaknesses, she is stepping back. It allows her to keep her hands-off the wheel and allows him to grow. Unfortunately, he sees her as an enemy and she longs to correct it. However, being 10 years further along in her journey, she has the ‘vision’ of what God can do when you are stuck in muck of our own personality. Great things come when God lets His Joy-Hounds of Heaven lose in your life. While she waits, she prays ‘sic ‘em’!!!
quickie :
*anger = a secondary emotion to loss, grief, failure, no control
*Q’s 4self – approachable? feel safe? listening? nice?
*why not ask ‘if anger is a secondary emotion, what is your core feeling?’
(a soft approach – softens you as well as the angry party)
personality vs privilege
Looking back he projected a lot of what he thought on how she would respond. The more he could project the more he made it out that she did wrong.
Anger is a secondary response. Everything in the relationship up to this point was ok. (not super fine but ok- no issues on the radar). So why did he respond in anger when she asked the question? The question was asked very innocently and no agenda. She was hurt by his disrespect and his refusal to allow her to say anything. This is the beginning point. So why was he so angry?
Was there something bothering him about her or was he feeling overwhelmed with his own personality and being an adult now with responsibilities? He is studying to be a licensed physiologist. Isn’t he going to need some skills in communicating without projecting your own fears and rational into the issue at hand?
She has been searching for the right way to mend fences. So with anger being a secondary emotion and getting the feeling that he is overwhelmed and searching his own path in the adult world and owning his personality strengths and weaknesses, she is stepping back. It allows her to keep her hands-off the wheel and allows him to grow. Unfortunately, he sees her as an enemy and she longs to correct it. However, being 10 years further along in her journey, she has the ‘vision’ of what God can do when you are stuck in muck of our own personality. Great things come when God lets His Joy-Hounds of Heaven lose in your life. While she waits, she prays ‘sic ‘em’!!!
quickie :
*anger = a secondary emotion to loss, grief, failure, no control
*Q’s 4self – approachable? feel safe? listening? nice?
*why not ask ‘if anger is a secondary emotion, what is your core feeling?’
(a soft approach – softens you as well as the angry party)
personality vs privilege
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
twinkle rock ...
The deep purple sunset nestled up against the inky black earth and there hovering where the two meet was the silvery sliver of the moon. It was a rather long slice and inviting like a favorite rocking chair. I couldn't help but wish to sit in Mr. Moon's curve, dip my toe in the dark blue night , and watch the stars twinkle.
moment captured : september gold
moment captured : september gold
Monday, September 25, 2006
trying to keep you ...
Taylor,
I would like to say hello to you. I think you were fine. I am to fine. I like to say thank you for all the things that you have done for me. Now I'm doing grade 8. Next year I'm doing grade 9. I will need you support. I will try as if I can to be not lose you all the times.
- EN
Dearest EN,
Taylor isn’t my name. Is this your former sponsor? I chose you or rather your sad eyes chose me. I wanted an older girl like you because I wanted to prove my ‘stickability’. You do not have to try to keep me. It is my responsibility and privilege to be steadfast and committed to you. I know you have had a plateful of loved ones leave you and I only have had a spoonful. I hate absence enough to want to shower you with a constant thought and prayer for you. I want you to know you are valuable and worthy of someone to care about your welfare and to support you. I cannot replace your mother or your father or their love, but I will do my best at covering you with my KingdomMail. I have a Heavenly Father that watches over me and over you. This brings a comfort to my heart and spirit. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are a keeper. You bring a sad tear to my eye but joy and urgency to my spirit. Be comforted little beautiful one. You are my girl.
~always keeper
horizon international
kuyasa* kids (*sun rising)
Sunday, September 24, 2006
teeth on edge or change up …
Have you ever wondered about how to break a bad cycle? Those cycles where what is done in one generation is passed to the next and so on? We all know they are true even the statistics prove it. If your parents are divorced most likely you will divorce. I believed it and felt it true. But I didn’t know with solid proof that when I break a cycle I can change the cycle for good or even if I could change the cycle before the four generation. Now I have proof that I do have the Power to change a bad phase and a new promise to back me.
The hardest part is to change. We have the power to alter what we want to change. We do better when we know better. The proof lies in Jeremiah 31:29-30 about an old covenant and a new one on a lesson in sour grapes.
So all you have to do is stop eating sour grapes! Sounds easy and I know it will be hard but this is really gooooooood encouragement! One little piece of advice is that you must WANT it bad enough or you will continue to pop those sour grapes as if they were the finest chocolates.
The hardest part is to change. We have the power to alter what we want to change. We do better when we know better. The proof lies in Jeremiah 31:29-30 about an old covenant and a new one on a lesson in sour grapes.
"In those days people will no longer say,
'The fathers have eaten sour grapes,
and the children's teeth are set on edge.'
Instead, everyone will die for his own sin;
whoever eats sour grapes
- his own teeth will be set on edge.
jer 31:29-30
So all you have to do is stop eating sour grapes! Sounds easy and I know it will be hard but this is really gooooooood encouragement! One little piece of advice is that you must WANT it bad enough or you will continue to pop those sour grapes as if they were the finest chocolates.
thoughts of home ...
Ever wonder what thoughts of home the prodigal son thought of to make him come back to his father? Would he remember the discussions and arguements of right living or would he remember the traditions, celebrations, and blessings of home? I am sure he knew that there would be a homecoming celebration. He probably felt in the deepest part that his father had every right to send him away, but why not try out the love of his father to see if the traditions, celebrations, and blessings could withstand his absence. Ever true his father's arms where outstretched and welcoming. A father standing upon year after year of family tradition ordered up a feast fit for a king. Celebrating home, love, and coming back...
What celebrations, traditions, and blessings can you begin in your home today? How does this relate to Worship? What traditions do you remember from home? What traditions do you wish you would have had in your childhood home? Why not make some? You will pave the way for God-Seeds to germinate. You can even do in a single household. Don't delay...
What celebrations, traditions, and blessings can you begin in your home today? How does this relate to Worship? What traditions do you remember from home? What traditions do you wish you would have had in your childhood home? Why not make some? You will pave the way for God-Seeds to germinate. You can even do in a single household. Don't delay...
Saturday, September 23, 2006
grape showers ...
Today was full of showers. So I put on my rain coat and went out to grape arbors. Let me tell you what fruit is an ant's favorite! Yup, grapes! They scurried in their little armies putting in a door and maybe a window to set up their little wine tasting shops. I even found one shop dried up and vacant like an old western back lot.
As I picked the movie 'Sideways' came to mind as I thought back over the summer and how it effected the grape. It wasn't overly hot or overly rainy whatever it was, it wasn't really good for the grape or at least not like last year. The arbor on the side has huge Concord grapes. They are a seedy lot and very tart. I picked so many last year I didn't go to the arbor in the back. This year I picked about handful and went to the back yard. Here I found several handfuls of tiny Concord grapes (no seeds!). They made me wish they were blueberries instead. (I love blueberries) No matter I will have some grape juice soon! Mmmmm!
The back arbor faces east and west. With the growth of the grapes all on the western side, grapes like the warm afternoon sun hiding out under the umberella of grape leaves.
I found a perfect brunch of grapes. Yellow green to yellow purple - I looked deeply. I can't wait to paint it! I love how painting has nurtured the awe of nature for me. These yellow grapes where Nieagra (they have seeds) but I didn't pick those because I saw one batch and thought they weren't ripe. Bummer, but I did learn a lot just my taking it all in deeply.
I enjoyed picking the grapes in the rain. I think it is the best way! I didn't feel buggy like you would if there a normal rainless September day. The rain was a soft patter to a steady downpour. It was music to my ears as it patter agaisnt the huge grape leaves and my blue raincoat. Perfect way to 'dance' in the rain as an adult! Grape juice as an reward too!
mad chow : ribs!
As I picked the movie 'Sideways' came to mind as I thought back over the summer and how it effected the grape. It wasn't overly hot or overly rainy whatever it was, it wasn't really good for the grape or at least not like last year. The arbor on the side has huge Concord grapes. They are a seedy lot and very tart. I picked so many last year I didn't go to the arbor in the back. This year I picked about handful and went to the back yard. Here I found several handfuls of tiny Concord grapes (no seeds!). They made me wish they were blueberries instead. (I love blueberries) No matter I will have some grape juice soon! Mmmmm!
The back arbor faces east and west. With the growth of the grapes all on the western side, grapes like the warm afternoon sun hiding out under the umberella of grape leaves.
I found a perfect brunch of grapes. Yellow green to yellow purple - I looked deeply. I can't wait to paint it! I love how painting has nurtured the awe of nature for me. These yellow grapes where Nieagra (they have seeds) but I didn't pick those because I saw one batch and thought they weren't ripe. Bummer, but I did learn a lot just my taking it all in deeply.
I enjoyed picking the grapes in the rain. I think it is the best way! I didn't feel buggy like you would if there a normal rainless September day. The rain was a soft patter to a steady downpour. It was music to my ears as it patter agaisnt the huge grape leaves and my blue raincoat. Perfect way to 'dance' in the rain as an adult! Grape juice as an reward too!
mad chow : ribs!
the breakdown of breakup smarts ...
1) Stop eating sour grapes
'whoever eats sour grapes—his own teeth will be set on edge' jer 31:30
If something is unclear, if there is rejection, if there is a disappearance, if there is neglect, if there is abuse in a relationship, then you are eating sour grapes. Feeling edgy? No wonder!
2) Step away / See clearly
Step away to allow breathing room. (they recommend 60days no contact) See clearly. If you need to write down the break up and translate it into words that you understand better. Painful but needed. Moves you quicker through the searing blindness and onto your furture.
3) Take your hands off the wheel
Stop controlling. Even if you think you have the hands off approach down pat, there are still stuttle ways to sneak the hands onto the wheel. Yup, that means no knees either!
4) Own your life journey
To live deeply is to own every experience that comes your way. Inhale and feel it evade every part of your being so that you are not an empty vessel.
5) Celebrate the classy balanced superfox that you are
You are valueable to this world. All your gifts, talents, and dreams that are in you are made to be given out to those that come into your world. So make sure you take care of you!
ok temper tantrum
Enough with the break up part, huh? Yeah, I've had enough of it too. It sure helped me step back into my future. Yes, break ups are a part of life, but what about caretaking and make ups? I am a very stedfast person. I have deep roots. I use to be bold and try to tackle relationship issues head on until that didn't work. I feel that you should be able to discuss a problem without winning. Find the smallest but most real thorn and make changes for the next leg of the journey. How else are you to have a really good deep marriage or relationship? How do you say 'that hurts don't do it again.' It is troubling to me to see my friends' marriages breaking up. It is painful to have a family member disrespect me and then get angry with me for trying to say don't. It just broke more because I tried to pursue the issue to fix it up. So that is what I am searching and will be revealing my discoveries here. Heads up with hope - there has to be some makeup smarts out there!
'whoever eats sour grapes—his own teeth will be set on edge' jer 31:30
If something is unclear, if there is rejection, if there is a disappearance, if there is neglect, if there is abuse in a relationship, then you are eating sour grapes. Feeling edgy? No wonder!
2) Step away / See clearly
Step away to allow breathing room. (they recommend 60days no contact) See clearly. If you need to write down the break up and translate it into words that you understand better. Painful but needed. Moves you quicker through the searing blindness and onto your furture.
3) Take your hands off the wheel
Stop controlling. Even if you think you have the hands off approach down pat, there are still stuttle ways to sneak the hands onto the wheel. Yup, that means no knees either!
4) Own your life journey
To live deeply is to own every experience that comes your way. Inhale and feel it evade every part of your being so that you are not an empty vessel.
5) Celebrate the classy balanced superfox that you are
You are valueable to this world. All your gifts, talents, and dreams that are in you are made to be given out to those that come into your world. So make sure you take care of you!
ok temper tantrum
Enough with the break up part, huh? Yeah, I've had enough of it too. It sure helped me step back into my future. Yes, break ups are a part of life, but what about caretaking and make ups? I am a very stedfast person. I have deep roots. I use to be bold and try to tackle relationship issues head on until that didn't work. I feel that you should be able to discuss a problem without winning. Find the smallest but most real thorn and make changes for the next leg of the journey. How else are you to have a really good deep marriage or relationship? How do you say 'that hurts don't do it again.' It is troubling to me to see my friends' marriages breaking up. It is painful to have a family member disrespect me and then get angry with me for trying to say don't. It just broke more because I tried to pursue the issue to fix it up. So that is what I am searching and will be revealing my discoveries here. Heads up with hope - there has to be some makeup smarts out there!
Friday, September 22, 2006
september gold ...
September began with the gold at the tip top of the early bird trees. The corn and beans fields soon followed with their golden color. Summer days hung on the first two weeks but now the rain has been persistent to bring in a chill to the air. The farmer took down his first field of corn. The roads once walled 6 feet high in lush emerald green are opening up to miles of horizon with each passing day. Craft fairs are popping up to take on a hometown feel of the upcoming Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. The wonderful green tinged red Macintosh apples are in the local markets which makes this girl a happy chomper. About time for my favorites to back to me!!! Yum!
moment captured : exquisite!!!
moment captured : exquisite!!!
Thursday, September 21, 2006
an ok temper tantrum...
''Mine! All mine!! Not letting you take it from me!!! Never, no way, no how will I let you steal my treasure. I am keeping my grubby little hands tightly clinched around all that I hold dear. Mine! Mine!! All mine!!!
Funny as a parent you would not allow this kind of behavior from our young or at least in my parents day they have your hide =)
But I am purposing that as an adult this kind of temper tantrum is needed. Yes, you heard right. I am encouraging you to stand there in with all your being and shout on the top of your lungs that your life journey and your dreams are yours and that no one is going to take it or mess it up for you. You are in charge and you have every right to make sure you are carrying out your purpose and your dreams. Sorry, no excuses for being defeated. When someone has wronged you, shout out 'all mine - I am responsible for who I am and what I do.' Ok, that was good but a little louder. Show more confidence please!
Let me tell you from personal experience it feels soo good to reclaim parts of myself and my dreams that have gotten batter and beaten down. Don't misunderstand me. I am not saying to be defiant towards God. No, the temper tantrums are needed to get back to the hard God-Lessons learned through out your journey. It is a triumph to take back my adventure and mystery and lay them down again at His feet. A pretty nice victory!!!
She grabs her paper hat and her baton and high steps it around her small skybox. Letting out her most fiercest rebel yell, ''Mine! All mine!! Not letting you take it from me!!! Never, no way, no how will I let you steal my treasure. I am keeping my grubby little hands tightly clinched around all that I hold dear. Mine! Mine!! All mine!!!
you want to report a missing person/
quickie :
own your life
own your dreams
own your experiences
own your life lessons
own your strengths & weakness
own your JOY
Funny as a parent you would not allow this kind of behavior from our young or at least in my parents day they have your hide =)
But I am purposing that as an adult this kind of temper tantrum is needed. Yes, you heard right. I am encouraging you to stand there in with all your being and shout on the top of your lungs that your life journey and your dreams are yours and that no one is going to take it or mess it up for you. You are in charge and you have every right to make sure you are carrying out your purpose and your dreams. Sorry, no excuses for being defeated. When someone has wronged you, shout out 'all mine - I am responsible for who I am and what I do.' Ok, that was good but a little louder. Show more confidence please!
Let me tell you from personal experience it feels soo good to reclaim parts of myself and my dreams that have gotten batter and beaten down. Don't misunderstand me. I am not saying to be defiant towards God. No, the temper tantrums are needed to get back to the hard God-Lessons learned through out your journey. It is a triumph to take back my adventure and mystery and lay them down again at His feet. A pretty nice victory!!!
She grabs her paper hat and her baton and high steps it around her small skybox. Letting out her most fiercest rebel yell, ''Mine! All mine!! Not letting you take it from me!!! Never, no way, no how will I let you steal my treasure. I am keeping my grubby little hands tightly clinched around all that I hold dear. Mine! Mine!! All mine!!!
you want to report a missing person/
quickie :
own your life
own your dreams
own your experiences
own your life lessons
own your strengths & weakness
own your JOY
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
ribs!!!
I have two really good baby bush blue pumpkins growing in the middle of my patch. I believe they are the blue but what I noticed was the smoothness is gone. They have ribs!!!! Happy dance!!!! The pumpkin plant itself is just ugly and mostly dead. I still have a few littler pumpkins and I hope they continue to hang on. One jarrahdale is still there and it has grown some since the week before. It is reallllly green and the season is quickly coming to an end. On my way home yesterday I noticed everyone had their bright orange pumpkins lining their sidewalks or still in their gardens. My heart yearns for the jarrahdale to hang on as the weatherman says there is a good chance of frost tonight.
When I went to get some pears yesterday, I took another glance. Another pumpkin just fell into my hands because the stem had gone mushy. I cleaned up the bush baby and I am to displaying it for fall in my house even though it is a bit puny. I told my mom that I am just going to love these no matter how little and lack of growth they were able to achieve. I refuse to be bummed by how little and unproductive my blue pumpkins have been for me. I choose to be happy and enjoy the little batch I have. I will have two good ones and I hope for the rest to keep growing. What matters most is that I chose to grow blue pumpkins and to enjoy them no matter what.
Ok, about the blue color? These pumpkins will be grey blue in color. I find it hard to know if they are blue because the bush babies where a light green. I do believe the two in the center of the patch with ribs are a grey blue. I wonder if they will go darker. The jarrahdale is a darker brighter green. It is still a baby. I hope it hangs on because I really want to see the color change on it and maybe it will be easier to see it with the bush babies already way out hatching him.
I will do my happy dance but with lots of hope for more to come!
mad chow :save blue pumpkins for me
When I went to get some pears yesterday, I took another glance. Another pumpkin just fell into my hands because the stem had gone mushy. I cleaned up the bush baby and I am to displaying it for fall in my house even though it is a bit puny. I told my mom that I am just going to love these no matter how little and lack of growth they were able to achieve. I refuse to be bummed by how little and unproductive my blue pumpkins have been for me. I choose to be happy and enjoy the little batch I have. I will have two good ones and I hope for the rest to keep growing. What matters most is that I chose to grow blue pumpkins and to enjoy them no matter what.
Ok, about the blue color? These pumpkins will be grey blue in color. I find it hard to know if they are blue because the bush babies where a light green. I do believe the two in the center of the patch with ribs are a grey blue. I wonder if they will go darker. The jarrahdale is a darker brighter green. It is still a baby. I hope it hangs on because I really want to see the color change on it and maybe it will be easier to see it with the bush babies already way out hatching him.
I will do my happy dance but with lots of hope for more to come!
mad chow :save blue pumpkins for me
True Blue - Oz
written & sung by John Williamson
Hey True Blue, don't say you've gone
Say you've knocked off for a smoko
And you'll be back later on
Hey True Blue, Hey True Blue
Give it to me straight
Face to face
Are you really disappearing,
Just another dying race,
Hey True Blue.
True Blue, is it me and you?
Is it Mum and Dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate
When he's in a fight?
Or will she be right?
True Blue, I'm asking you...
Hey True Blue, can you bear the load?
Will you tie it up with wire,
Just to keep the show on the road?
Hey True Blue, Hey True Blue, now be Fair Dinkum
Is your heart still there?
If they sell us out like sponge cake
Do you really care?
Hey True Blue.
True Blue, is it me and you?
Is it Mum and Dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate
When she's in a fight?
Or will she be right?
True Blue, I'm asking you...
True Blue, is it me and you?
Is it Mum and Dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate
When he's in a fight?
Or will she be right?
True Blue ... True Blue.
lyric page
more info
True Blue=
Steadfast loyal Australian who displays
the Aussie ideals of a fair go for all,
mateship, having a go, and solving problems.
tribute to irwin
Hey True Blue, don't say you've gone
Say you've knocked off for a smoko
And you'll be back later on
Hey True Blue, Hey True Blue
Give it to me straight
Face to face
Are you really disappearing,
Just another dying race,
Hey True Blue.
True Blue, is it me and you?
Is it Mum and Dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate
When he's in a fight?
Or will she be right?
True Blue, I'm asking you...
Hey True Blue, can you bear the load?
Will you tie it up with wire,
Just to keep the show on the road?
Hey True Blue, Hey True Blue, now be Fair Dinkum
Is your heart still there?
If they sell us out like sponge cake
Do you really care?
Hey True Blue.
True Blue, is it me and you?
Is it Mum and Dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate
When she's in a fight?
Or will she be right?
True Blue, I'm asking you...
True Blue, is it me and you?
Is it Mum and Dad, is it a cockatoo?
Is it standing by your mate
When he's in a fight?
Or will she be right?
True Blue ... True Blue.
lyric page
more info
True Blue=
Steadfast loyal Australian who displays
the Aussie ideals of a fair go for all,
mateship, having a go, and solving problems.
tribute to irwin
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
you want to report a missing person?
Who is he in relationship to you?
He was a really good friend. I felt the connection right off. We both marveled at the feeling of home we felt with each other.
Describe your relationship.
Our relationship from the start was one that I was very comfortable with. I could tell that I could talk about anything. It amazed me that I finally could talk to another person about spiritual things without any confusion. We were on the same wave length .. same language. Over the four years we kept getting closer where he asked if he could call me. Four hours plus chattering on the phone seemed so short because we felt we had finally mattered to someone.
Was he showing signs of leaving?
Oh yes, from day one he showed signs of leaving. He was trying to establish himself at the time. He had no real place of his own or computer. He relied on internet cafes. He did make connections with me. There was a conversation about how if I was still around enabled him to realize if I was a reliable friend. Then there was a time he was gone for 6 months. It was a long time for me to handle but it was ok because he was back. We just picked up where we had left off. To most people that is part of being a good friend. However, the last year we had made huge strides in taking our friendship deeper to the point where leaving and picking back up isn't an option for me. We were making plans on writing a book together. I felt that was a commitment. He sent be a leaving letter explaining that he was too busy and too tired. It really bothered me. He never left it open to him coming back.
Looking back I see that his leaving letter was a ‘rejection’ letter. I just couldn’t understand it. He did email me once every month after about where he was spiritually. I always felt the letters was not a personal letter to me rather to a group. He never spoke of how he was or how his kids where. Then somewhere in November I heard no peep from him. I personally felt he had a problem with flight whenever it got rough. I just never saw it as him leaving me rather his life was out of whack. I never saw the rejection as rejection till now. To me it was a disappearance. It still is.
What has this whole disappearance mean to you?
I was extremely angry about it. Disappearance is really about devaluing another and allowing the person to feel unworthy of your presence. I could not believe he would do this to me. I was conflicted if he was just that broken down or if I wasn’t worthy enough for his presence. Maybe I put too much into this disappearance. I tried to sweep it aside giving him allowances. I found that it only made me more mad at God than with him. I am finding out how deep it goes that valuing others and treatment is important. Your presence is extremely important. Withholding is abuse. No more excuses. I am not mad at God any more. I am not mad at him either. Disappointed? Yes.
My life has been a constant reminder that ‘I will not be where I am not wanted’, but there is another part to that equation to make it complete. ‘I will not be where I am not wanted so I will be where I want to be in my journey’ (~k). Love life. I refuse to give up on the Joy that has transformed my life. Part of Joy is enjoying God and all His creations. I am one of His creations. He delights in me. I cannot be forgotten because He has etched my name in His hands. I have pressed myself deeper into the side of Jesus. I can’t let go. I am more upright now and not so broken. It feels like I have come through it and into the sunshine.
I feel like I am more aware of the ‘wanting something bad enough you will do something about it’. It has always been there. I remember my mother at her wits in over my lack of pride in cleaning the sinks. Her final words have always stuck with me. ‘If it is important enough to you, you will move heaven and earth to do something about it.’ It might have been about pride in my cleaning but as this still haunts me as an adult, I must know what is important to me. I feel more certain that if I feel a disappearance coming on or a lack of enthusiasm, I will be putting the feet to the flame. I won’t be afraid so much to ask what is important to you. I will walk away more sure of who you are and with my head held high.
Disappearance and rejection is stuck and unable to let go. Giving excuses is also holding onto the wheel. Now that I recognize that I will be more carefree with my life. I refuse to hold the wheel. The best that has come my way has been because God was the only One driving. My most favorite and safe way to life my life is no hands. =)
quickie
hands-off off-roading=
* not trying to manipulate how you feel about me
* allowing you to disappear and not go crazy
* not being where I am not wanted but being where I want to be in my journey
* not making excuses for you but excusing myself gracefully to go out on the dance floor and love life joyfully (~k)
'so into you' letter
He was a really good friend. I felt the connection right off. We both marveled at the feeling of home we felt with each other.
Describe your relationship.
Our relationship from the start was one that I was very comfortable with. I could tell that I could talk about anything. It amazed me that I finally could talk to another person about spiritual things without any confusion. We were on the same wave length .. same language. Over the four years we kept getting closer where he asked if he could call me. Four hours plus chattering on the phone seemed so short because we felt we had finally mattered to someone.
Was he showing signs of leaving?
Oh yes, from day one he showed signs of leaving. He was trying to establish himself at the time. He had no real place of his own or computer. He relied on internet cafes. He did make connections with me. There was a conversation about how if I was still around enabled him to realize if I was a reliable friend. Then there was a time he was gone for 6 months. It was a long time for me to handle but it was ok because he was back. We just picked up where we had left off. To most people that is part of being a good friend. However, the last year we had made huge strides in taking our friendship deeper to the point where leaving and picking back up isn't an option for me. We were making plans on writing a book together. I felt that was a commitment. He sent be a leaving letter explaining that he was too busy and too tired. It really bothered me. He never left it open to him coming back.
Looking back I see that his leaving letter was a ‘rejection’ letter. I just couldn’t understand it. He did email me once every month after about where he was spiritually. I always felt the letters was not a personal letter to me rather to a group. He never spoke of how he was or how his kids where. Then somewhere in November I heard no peep from him. I personally felt he had a problem with flight whenever it got rough. I just never saw it as him leaving me rather his life was out of whack. I never saw the rejection as rejection till now. To me it was a disappearance. It still is.
What has this whole disappearance mean to you?
I was extremely angry about it. Disappearance is really about devaluing another and allowing the person to feel unworthy of your presence. I could not believe he would do this to me. I was conflicted if he was just that broken down or if I wasn’t worthy enough for his presence. Maybe I put too much into this disappearance. I tried to sweep it aside giving him allowances. I found that it only made me more mad at God than with him. I am finding out how deep it goes that valuing others and treatment is important. Your presence is extremely important. Withholding is abuse. No more excuses. I am not mad at God any more. I am not mad at him either. Disappointed? Yes.
My life has been a constant reminder that ‘I will not be where I am not wanted’, but there is another part to that equation to make it complete. ‘I will not be where I am not wanted so I will be where I want to be in my journey’ (~k). Love life. I refuse to give up on the Joy that has transformed my life. Part of Joy is enjoying God and all His creations. I am one of His creations. He delights in me. I cannot be forgotten because He has etched my name in His hands. I have pressed myself deeper into the side of Jesus. I can’t let go. I am more upright now and not so broken. It feels like I have come through it and into the sunshine.
I feel like I am more aware of the ‘wanting something bad enough you will do something about it’. It has always been there. I remember my mother at her wits in over my lack of pride in cleaning the sinks. Her final words have always stuck with me. ‘If it is important enough to you, you will move heaven and earth to do something about it.’ It might have been about pride in my cleaning but as this still haunts me as an adult, I must know what is important to me. I feel more certain that if I feel a disappearance coming on or a lack of enthusiasm, I will be putting the feet to the flame. I won’t be afraid so much to ask what is important to you. I will walk away more sure of who you are and with my head held high.
Disappearance and rejection is stuck and unable to let go. Giving excuses is also holding onto the wheel. Now that I recognize that I will be more carefree with my life. I refuse to hold the wheel. The best that has come my way has been because God was the only One driving. My most favorite and safe way to life my life is no hands. =)
quickie
hands-off off-roading=
* not trying to manipulate how you feel about me
* allowing you to disappear and not go crazy
* not being where I am not wanted but being where I want to be in my journey
* not making excuses for you but excusing myself gracefully to go out on the dance floor and love life joyfully (~k)
'so into you' letter
tribute to Irwin ...
Bindi
"My daddy was my hero - he was always there for me when I needed him."
"He listened to me and taught me so many things but most of all he was fun.
"I know that daddy had an important job. He was working to change the world so everyone would love wildlife like he did."
Bindi said her father built a hospital and bought land to give animals a safe place to live and she wanted to continue his legacy.
"I don't want daddy's passion to ever end," she said. "I want to help endangered wildlife just like he did."
Bindi said she would miss her father.
"I have the best daddy in the whole world and I will miss him every day," she said.
"When I see a crocodile I will always think of him and I know that daddy made this zoo so everyone could come and learn to love all the animals.
"Daddy made this place his whole life and now it's our turn to help daddy."
PM John Howard
"We gather in this special place that Steve created to celebrate the life of a remarkable man and a remarkable Australian,"
"Steve Irwin touched the hearts of Australians and touched the hearts of millions around the world in a very special way.
"He did that because he had that quality of being genuine, of being authentic, of being unconditional and having a great zest for life and, throughout his all-too-short life, he demonstrated a love for the two things that ought to matter more to all of us than anything else: his love of his family and his love of his country."
Mr Howard said Irwin brought to Australians and to the world an understanding of nature.
"He taught our children in particular to love and respect all creatures great and small," he said.
"In everything he did he was direct, he was genuine and oh-so Australian and that is what we loved about him."
Hugh Jackman
"Whether it's for the wilderness, whether it's for the animals, his family, whether it's for just the planet, or just life in itself, Steve showed us that we can live like warriors, and we can make the world a better place," he said
the age.com.au
Sunday, September 17, 2006
bowed praise to You ...
who has delighted in you
and placed you on the throne of Israel.
Because of the LORD's eternal love for Israel,
He has made you king to maintain justice and righteousness.
~I Kings 10:9
delighted in you ... placed you in this way you walk ..
yes, His Eternal Love burns for you ..
maintain what is right, true, and good...
Saturday, September 16, 2006
'so into you' letter ...
Dear Hot Stuff .. (yes you, miss keeper!),
You wonder if I have noticed you? Just divide the time in half for you to notice me. Don’t worry about your quiet nature or that you feel invisible because I have already noticed you. All it took was your smile and warm eyes to pique my interest. You have been working on your engaging quiet style so stop doubting the aloofness. That was said of you long long ago. It is not there today. Do I want you bad enough? Oh yes! I will pursue you. You desire to know for sure without any doubts that I am into you so go on love life and be certain that I will find you.
Don’t worry about the friendship factor. If I am truly excited about and attracted to you, I won’t stop myself .. I will go for more. I will take it further than friendship. I am not afraid. Too little money, too busy, too stressed, ‘love is too damaged’ is not going to stop me from trying to keep you in my life. Because I dig you, I might ask for personal reasons to go slow, but I will let you know immediately. I won’t keep you guessing; because I want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away. Having said that don’t let me trick you into asking me out. It makes for a lazy me. I want you? I will do the work to keep you. It is ok for you to make me work for your number or for contact information. One note .. if you say no, I will ask again. I am strong enough and for you to know that I am for real, I won’t make you feel lousy. You need to feel comfortable in your decisions and your life. Remember this, men like to pursue women. Yes, I like NOT knowing if I can catch you. In the end I will feel so totally rewarded when I do .. especially if the chase is a long one. Your reward? Knowing that I wanted you enough to pursue you. The chase allows you to know my love.
I will never be toooo busy to call you. I like taking a break from my generally mundane day to talk to someone I like. It makes me happy. I like happy. Just like you. Because I am into you, you are the bright spot in my horribly busy day which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. Don’t allow any excuses for not calling fool you. Always remember actions speak louder than words especially excuses. Please don’t except the ‘oh, I forgot’! Don’t you want a guy who’ll forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you? Yeah, I thought so. I don’t want to be sloppy with my relationships. My promises need to stand solid. My words must retain all the value or you will lose faith in me. I could not stand that. I am into you way too much. Memo: Men are never too busy or forgetful to get what they want. If a guy (jerk) creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on the little thing, he will do the same for the big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s ok with disappointing you. You are too exceptional for me to waste. You are always on my mind. I sure don’t want you to be disappointed in me.
There is a line between ‘hanging out’ and dating. Yes, it is a bit gray so let me clear things up for you so you know my full intentions without guesswork. When I ask you out on a true date, I am making it official. I want to see you alone to find out if there is more to us. I will be taking you out for a public excursion, a good meal, and some hand holding if you allow. ‘Fear of intimacy’ is a definite urban myth to cover a coward’s ways.
Watch out for the word ‘friend’. It is used by both sexes to excuse the most unfriendly behavior. When picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me cry myself to sleep. So take care of yourself. If you’re crying yourself to sleep, wipe the tear away. Go love life. You are soo worth more than to be used. I want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship becomes serious. I want you to feel safe as well. One way I can prove protected is by laying claim to my relationship to you. I will say that ‘I would like to be your boyfriend’ or ‘I’m your boyfriend’ or ‘If you ever break up with that other guy who’s not your boyfriend, I’d like to be your boyfriend.’ I want you all to myself. I want your beautiful glowing self in my life. You can bet that I won’t allow a couple weeks go by much less once a month without you. I want you so I’ll be calling you, and making you feel good and desired fully. Give your word that you will not tolerate murky, gray, unidentified, and undeclared feelings exist in your romantic relationship. You deserve all the love you dream and wish for in the teamship you dream about.
Even though deep intimacy is best when kept for marriage, men are going to have a hard time keeping his paws off you when they are into you. So yeah, you bet I am going to want to some hand holding and kissing. The nugget here is to know if I am into you or not is to realize if there isn’t touching involved that guy is not into you. Also beware of those that use you to not feel alone. They are just passing the time getting the physical until the girl they are into come along. (User Losers!) You are a beautiful creature inside and out. Stick to your values. I want your values and all. Don’t be tempted to settle for the sake of attention. I will give you my full attention. You are too special to me to neglect your heart.
Now comes the pep talk about cheaters. Don’t ever take the excuse or share the blame for why they cheated. Don’t even ask what you did wrong. Cheating doesn’t just happen. It was planned and executed with full knowledge that it could end your relationship. Even if they claim they don’t know why they did it, it is not something you should tolerate. Cheating gets easier over time so why let them do it over and over again? Remember cheaters cheat themselves … because he doesn’t get to be with you!!! Wait for me. I value you too much to cheat you on the relationship you so dream about. I too want a protected marriage. Yes, I believe in communication.
I want you too much to be intoxicated by any other form such as alcohol and drugs. You take my breath away. I feel like a man around your soft gentle ways. You make me smile and laugh. Why would I want to lose any of my precious memories with you?
Every man has laid claim to not wanting to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage or has issues with marriage. That is because they hadn’t found their match. Guarantee I even said those things. Interesting though that you caught my eye and love cured all my commitment phobias! I share your views for the future. I desire a loving commitment for the rest of our days just like you. Sure, there will never be a good time, financially, to get married. Too poor is just an excuse! I am going to let you know as soon as possible that I mean business. I will not give off mix messages. I do care how you are feeling. The ‘I’m not ready’ is another lame excuse. It foreshadows unfulfilling relationship for you. Hold close to your heart, I am a guy who can’t wait to love you. It is a really big deal for a good guy to finally meet the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Never spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. I want you and you will have not doubts. I definitely want to marry you!!!
Maybe your heart broken by guys who break up with you before I can reach you. ‘I don’t want to go out with you’ means just that. Walk away with class. Walk away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. That’s it baby! Don’t be sucker into to doing anything for him. Don’t get all crazy either. Go ahead and grieve for the loss but go out and love life. Love yourself enough to know what you want is ok to have. Know you gave with all your heart. That is the beauty of you. Don’t waste it on him anymore. I can’t wait to enjoy all the beauty you will bring into my life. Believe.. your dreams will come true because I believe too.
Maybe he’s gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Confused? Don’t be! He’s made it clear that he’s so not into you that he couldn’t even be bothered to leave a post-it. Sure you want to solve the mystery but the important part of this disappearance is that he didn’t want you and he no guts to say it to your face! Don’t give him the chance to reject you again. No answer is your answer. Case closed. Plainly he did not value you. You crave value and attention. It is extremely important to have respect and interest in you. Keep it. Don’t let him take that desire from you. Don’t be where you’re not wanted but do be where you want to be in your journey. He isn’t even worth the tears you may cry. This truly makes me mad. You are so worthy of loving attention. You are a beautiful woman worthy of my presence. Why would I want to disappear when I have such a radiant woman inside and out right in front of me? I want you and love you too much not to walk the rest of my days hand in hand with you.
Maybe he's married, living with a woman, or has a girlfriend, run girl run! Maybe you didn’t realize right away or maybe he said so or maybe it is an ex he still yelling about or maybe he is crying over his last girlfriend.... welll no matter what if he isn’t all yours, he’s still hers. Another way to put it is if the person you ‘love’ cannot freely spend his days thinking about you and being with you, it’s not REAL love. Unfortunately, we live in a world of broken relationships. Be so careful to keep to your dreams of a good marriage burning. It is ok to break off a bad relationship. I know you are a nice girl but don’t allow men to push you into a place that makes you feel bad. It is toxic. God will bless you with better relationships. (me!) Be ok to walk alone. You are going to meet many men in many different stages of recovering from relationships. If I is really into you, I will get over my issues fast and make sure I don’t lose you. Or I will make it clear to you how I feel, so there’s no mystery, and tell you up front that I’m not up to it right now. And then you best be sure, the minute I am ready, I will run out and find you. You are not easily forgettable.
Maybe he makes you unhappy because he is selfish or he bullies you, or doesn’t like your family and friends. Is he making you happy? No? Cut him loose. I am going to share responsibilities with you. I am going to put effort in taking you out on sweet dates! I am going to remember your birthday. You deserve flowers and walks. I will compliment you and thank you. If I fail in an area of affection, I will take action. You are going to like things that I may not understand but I will make an attempt to love your family and friends. These are your support team and why wouldn’t I want to know them and love them?
Now about yelling, being publicly humiliated, or made to feel fat or unattractive? It’s hard to feel worthy of love when someone is going out of their way to make you feel worthless. I cherish you and there is no way I could damage you with verbal or physical or physiological abuse. Now about leeching off your family, that is using you and those around you. Not going to happen. So if the guy is messed up somewhere, of course you know you can’t fix him. Yes, I am covering all the bases until I can get to you. So some last minute pointers: Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with. You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time. There’s never a reason to shout at someone unless they are in imminent danger. Make space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith!
I want you. I love you. Don’t worry! I’m coming for you! Read this often!
~ your future!
Instead of making notecards of this book, I took the guy smarts and wrote an 'into you' letter.
I will be keeping this lesson learned.
fr: ''He's Just Not that into You'' ~ greg behrendt & liz tuccillo
My Grace is sufficient for you
You wonder if I have noticed you? Just divide the time in half for you to notice me. Don’t worry about your quiet nature or that you feel invisible because I have already noticed you. All it took was your smile and warm eyes to pique my interest. You have been working on your engaging quiet style so stop doubting the aloofness. That was said of you long long ago. It is not there today. Do I want you bad enough? Oh yes! I will pursue you. You desire to know for sure without any doubts that I am into you so go on love life and be certain that I will find you.
Don’t worry about the friendship factor. If I am truly excited about and attracted to you, I won’t stop myself .. I will go for more. I will take it further than friendship. I am not afraid. Too little money, too busy, too stressed, ‘love is too damaged’ is not going to stop me from trying to keep you in my life. Because I dig you, I might ask for personal reasons to go slow, but I will let you know immediately. I won’t keep you guessing; because I want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away. Having said that don’t let me trick you into asking me out. It makes for a lazy me. I want you? I will do the work to keep you. It is ok for you to make me work for your number or for contact information. One note .. if you say no, I will ask again. I am strong enough and for you to know that I am for real, I won’t make you feel lousy. You need to feel comfortable in your decisions and your life. Remember this, men like to pursue women. Yes, I like NOT knowing if I can catch you. In the end I will feel so totally rewarded when I do .. especially if the chase is a long one. Your reward? Knowing that I wanted you enough to pursue you. The chase allows you to know my love.
I will never be toooo busy to call you. I like taking a break from my generally mundane day to talk to someone I like. It makes me happy. I like happy. Just like you. Because I am into you, you are the bright spot in my horribly busy day which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. Don’t allow any excuses for not calling fool you. Always remember actions speak louder than words especially excuses. Please don’t except the ‘oh, I forgot’! Don’t you want a guy who’ll forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you? Yeah, I thought so. I don’t want to be sloppy with my relationships. My promises need to stand solid. My words must retain all the value or you will lose faith in me. I could not stand that. I am into you way too much. Memo: Men are never too busy or forgetful to get what they want. If a guy (jerk) creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on the little thing, he will do the same for the big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s ok with disappointing you. You are too exceptional for me to waste. You are always on my mind. I sure don’t want you to be disappointed in me.
There is a line between ‘hanging out’ and dating. Yes, it is a bit gray so let me clear things up for you so you know my full intentions without guesswork. When I ask you out on a true date, I am making it official. I want to see you alone to find out if there is more to us. I will be taking you out for a public excursion, a good meal, and some hand holding if you allow. ‘Fear of intimacy’ is a definite urban myth to cover a coward’s ways.
Watch out for the word ‘friend’. It is used by both sexes to excuse the most unfriendly behavior. When picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me cry myself to sleep. So take care of yourself. If you’re crying yourself to sleep, wipe the tear away. Go love life. You are soo worth more than to be used. I want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship becomes serious. I want you to feel safe as well. One way I can prove protected is by laying claim to my relationship to you. I will say that ‘I would like to be your boyfriend’ or ‘I’m your boyfriend’ or ‘If you ever break up with that other guy who’s not your boyfriend, I’d like to be your boyfriend.’ I want you all to myself. I want your beautiful glowing self in my life. You can bet that I won’t allow a couple weeks go by much less once a month without you. I want you so I’ll be calling you, and making you feel good and desired fully. Give your word that you will not tolerate murky, gray, unidentified, and undeclared feelings exist in your romantic relationship. You deserve all the love you dream and wish for in the teamship you dream about.
Even though deep intimacy is best when kept for marriage, men are going to have a hard time keeping his paws off you when they are into you. So yeah, you bet I am going to want to some hand holding and kissing. The nugget here is to know if I am into you or not is to realize if there isn’t touching involved that guy is not into you. Also beware of those that use you to not feel alone. They are just passing the time getting the physical until the girl they are into come along. (User Losers!) You are a beautiful creature inside and out. Stick to your values. I want your values and all. Don’t be tempted to settle for the sake of attention. I will give you my full attention. You are too special to me to neglect your heart.
Now comes the pep talk about cheaters. Don’t ever take the excuse or share the blame for why they cheated. Don’t even ask what you did wrong. Cheating doesn’t just happen. It was planned and executed with full knowledge that it could end your relationship. Even if they claim they don’t know why they did it, it is not something you should tolerate. Cheating gets easier over time so why let them do it over and over again? Remember cheaters cheat themselves … because he doesn’t get to be with you!!! Wait for me. I value you too much to cheat you on the relationship you so dream about. I too want a protected marriage. Yes, I believe in communication.
I want you too much to be intoxicated by any other form such as alcohol and drugs. You take my breath away. I feel like a man around your soft gentle ways. You make me smile and laugh. Why would I want to lose any of my precious memories with you?
Every man has laid claim to not wanting to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage or has issues with marriage. That is because they hadn’t found their match. Guarantee I even said those things. Interesting though that you caught my eye and love cured all my commitment phobias! I share your views for the future. I desire a loving commitment for the rest of our days just like you. Sure, there will never be a good time, financially, to get married. Too poor is just an excuse! I am going to let you know as soon as possible that I mean business. I will not give off mix messages. I do care how you are feeling. The ‘I’m not ready’ is another lame excuse. It foreshadows unfulfilling relationship for you. Hold close to your heart, I am a guy who can’t wait to love you. It is a really big deal for a good guy to finally meet the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Never spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. I want you and you will have not doubts. I definitely want to marry you!!!
Maybe your heart broken by guys who break up with you before I can reach you. ‘I don’t want to go out with you’ means just that. Walk away with class. Walk away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. That’s it baby! Don’t be sucker into to doing anything for him. Don’t get all crazy either. Go ahead and grieve for the loss but go out and love life. Love yourself enough to know what you want is ok to have. Know you gave with all your heart. That is the beauty of you. Don’t waste it on him anymore. I can’t wait to enjoy all the beauty you will bring into my life. Believe.. your dreams will come true because I believe too.
Maybe he’s gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Confused? Don’t be! He’s made it clear that he’s so not into you that he couldn’t even be bothered to leave a post-it. Sure you want to solve the mystery but the important part of this disappearance is that he didn’t want you and he no guts to say it to your face! Don’t give him the chance to reject you again. No answer is your answer. Case closed. Plainly he did not value you. You crave value and attention. It is extremely important to have respect and interest in you. Keep it. Don’t let him take that desire from you. Don’t be where you’re not wanted but do be where you want to be in your journey. He isn’t even worth the tears you may cry. This truly makes me mad. You are so worthy of loving attention. You are a beautiful woman worthy of my presence. Why would I want to disappear when I have such a radiant woman inside and out right in front of me? I want you and love you too much not to walk the rest of my days hand in hand with you.
Maybe he's married, living with a woman, or has a girlfriend, run girl run! Maybe you didn’t realize right away or maybe he said so or maybe it is an ex he still yelling about or maybe he is crying over his last girlfriend.... welll no matter what if he isn’t all yours, he’s still hers. Another way to put it is if the person you ‘love’ cannot freely spend his days thinking about you and being with you, it’s not REAL love. Unfortunately, we live in a world of broken relationships. Be so careful to keep to your dreams of a good marriage burning. It is ok to break off a bad relationship. I know you are a nice girl but don’t allow men to push you into a place that makes you feel bad. It is toxic. God will bless you with better relationships. (me!) Be ok to walk alone. You are going to meet many men in many different stages of recovering from relationships. If I is really into you, I will get over my issues fast and make sure I don’t lose you. Or I will make it clear to you how I feel, so there’s no mystery, and tell you up front that I’m not up to it right now. And then you best be sure, the minute I am ready, I will run out and find you. You are not easily forgettable.
Maybe he makes you unhappy because he is selfish or he bullies you, or doesn’t like your family and friends. Is he making you happy? No? Cut him loose. I am going to share responsibilities with you. I am going to put effort in taking you out on sweet dates! I am going to remember your birthday. You deserve flowers and walks. I will compliment you and thank you. If I fail in an area of affection, I will take action. You are going to like things that I may not understand but I will make an attempt to love your family and friends. These are your support team and why wouldn’t I want to know them and love them?
Now about yelling, being publicly humiliated, or made to feel fat or unattractive? It’s hard to feel worthy of love when someone is going out of their way to make you feel worthless. I cherish you and there is no way I could damage you with verbal or physical or physiological abuse. Now about leeching off your family, that is using you and those around you. Not going to happen. So if the guy is messed up somewhere, of course you know you can’t fix him. Yes, I am covering all the bases until I can get to you. So some last minute pointers: Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with. You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time. There’s never a reason to shout at someone unless they are in imminent danger. Make space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith!
I want you. I love you. Don’t worry! I’m coming for you! Read this often!
~ your future!
Instead of making notecards of this book, I took the guy smarts and wrote an 'into you' letter.
I will be keeping this lesson learned.
fr: ''He's Just Not that into You'' ~ greg behrendt & liz tuccillo
My Grace is sufficient for you
Thursday, September 14, 2006
My Grace is sufficient for you ...
What is Grace?
~ elegance, refinement, loveliness, polish,
beauty, style, poise, charm, class
~covering over what we lack my definition =)
So when His Answer is a gentle No, His Grace keeps us poised as we walk the way He has given us whether our prayer was for healing of sickness or heartache etc. He is the Sure Foundation, a Rich Store of Salvation, basically an abundant Storehouse to spare us the bent and brokenness that we so cling too. Rather He wants us with head held high confident that He works all things for our good...
He will be the Sure Foundation for your times,
A Rich Store of Salvation, & Wisdom, & Knowledge;
The Fear of the Lord is the Key to this Treasure.
~Isa 33:6
my 'not into you' letter
~ elegance, refinement, loveliness, polish,
beauty, style, poise, charm, class
~covering over what we lack my definition =)
So when His Answer is a gentle No, His Grace keeps us poised as we walk the way He has given us whether our prayer was for healing of sickness or heartache etc. He is the Sure Foundation, a Rich Store of Salvation, basically an abundant Storehouse to spare us the bent and brokenness that we so cling too. Rather He wants us with head held high confident that He works all things for our good...
He will be the Sure Foundation for your times,
A Rich Store of Salvation, & Wisdom, & Knowledge;
The Fear of the Lord is the Key to this Treasure.
~Isa 33:6
my 'not into you' letter
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
my 'not into you' letter ...
From : preciousgift
Sent : Sunday, May 8, 2005 5:18 PM
To : keeper
Subj : Quick Hi.
My son said you called yesterday.
I've been working unsustainable hours lately... Have my daughter’s orthodontic work to pay for.
When I get a few minutes to myself I just want to talk to son and daughter, and just be by myself.
Nothing personal, but I close my door and regenerate while I can.
Be good.
Preciousgift
Translation:
From: Not into you
To: not for keeps
Subj: quick good bye
Don’t call me. I am too busy, too poor, too tired, and too insular to carry on a conversation with you. My son and daughter are important BUT NOT YOU. What is left which is less than crumbs is for closing the door to you. It is personal .. me.
I don’t care that we feel like home when we talk. I don’t care if we had some good laughs. I don’t care if I called you first or suggested creating a book together. I don’t care if we had a safe place to explore our inner most thoughts and our walk with God. I don’t care for meat or fluff. I don’t care if you are finally getting down to your naked innermost being with me. I don’t care for friendship or a significant. It is no longer important or of value to me right now. Go away little girl.
good bye and good riddance
not into you
my homework from the book that allows no-excuse truth to understand guys….
''He’s Just Not That into You'' ~greg behrendt & liz tuccillo
Aren’t you being harsh with your translation?
The book was harsh and I cried, but after the storm I was finally able to let go of pain and value me. I resorted back to asking God why when that is the last thing I wanted to do. This was excruciating pain and I don’t want to feel or fall into it again. I wrote out the translation to keep a lesson learned. My life is about how I carry myself on this earth. I refuse broken and beaten.
So PreciousGift is totally written out of your life for good?
If he stays away, yes. If he should come back, there will have to be negotiations for renewal of a friendship. I will be holding his feet to the fire. I was extremely upset over his devaluing us and me.
Don’t get me wrong. PreciousGift is a pretty cool guy. I still care about him and his dreams. I have some pretty great memories of our talks. ‘all good’ a favorite phrase he would use. He is my issac and he’s all God’s.
I take it you had some great memories. What do you do about them?
I keep them. It was pretty awesome to experience a guy who I really dug. He was spiritually on the same wavelength as I was. He also knew how to have a discussion with me without making me feel attacked. I loved his laugh and he made me smile. I felt secure and comfortable with him. I loved that. I loved that we could talk about the color blue without him thinking it was strange. I love that he like asking questions of each other to find out the real us.
It is confusing to me. I felt he really liked me and that I was important friend in his life to up and disappear….
Did you have any little voice in the back saying ‘wait, he isn’t adding up here’?
Yes, he was describing how his sisters where insular. I point out asked him if he wasn’t insular as well. His answer? Yes. I could since his moods especially the ones when everything was overwhelming him. Flight was his speed so I asked him about men and their caves. His answer was helpful but with a million miles of earth and water between us, there was no way for me to reach out touch and he gave me no ways reach him.
What would you do differently?
I would never have called him even in the name of saving money or writing a book. I would have never over emailed him. I would learn to keep it short and simple and only to return his correspondance. If he would complain about meat or naked, I would have held his feet to the fire and say hey, pursue. If you want it, go for it. When he hedge the question about whether what we had would get to more, I would again have to hold him to the fire. If you want it bad enough you will do something about it. No more trying to spare his feelings or my possible awkwardness. If I would have done these things, I would have know for sure about him. If he would have excelled in his pursuit, then I would have know he was strong enough for me.
good gift vs cad, fraud & coward
flat daddy ...
Just saw where there is someplace that is supplying military families
with a life size cardboard cutout of their loved one serving in the war.
The mother described it as a great way to help her young children feel
their dad's presence especially on big events like her daughter's first
day of school. They take this visual picture of their father's spirit
out in public to their major events. Mother even admitted to buckling
him in the car to go do errands with her.
What a wonderful way not just for young kids but grown up adult kids too
feel close and even communicate with their loved one far away.
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