Compartment thinking is part of the male language. When man is facing a problem, that is where he puts all his focus. Think of the brain as a chest of drawers and most likely for the male, work is going to be the main problem. All other drawers remain tightly shut as he goes about correcting the problem. Everything around him is shut off.
Even if it is a home issue, the male goes straight to the work drawer and opens it. He finds that no matter what kind of problem he has the work drawer is his answer. The profession the male is in defines him. It is workable with his hands or his mind. It is what he can mostly control. The stuff of relationships and the stuff of home has tooooooo much flow and not an easy thing for a male to understand or really what he can control. The man likes things firm like land. He can understand sure things.
Multi-task thinking is part of the female language. When woman is facing a problem, she brings in all kinds of reinforcements. Still thinking of the brain as a chest of drawers, a woman has all the drawers open. Nothing is closed down. Everything is connected to everything.
When a situation presents itself, the female goes straight to the chest of drawers and opens every single drawer .... not just opens but pulls out the drawer and dumps out all contents. Then she will sit in the middle of the dumped contents and proceed to sort and resort. She will not do this alone. She will get on that phone and calls in every available reinforcement inviting them to come and help at her dump site. Sorting things out and knowing everything is connected is the female's source of control. A woman has great understanding of relationships and home. The woman likes things that flow like water. She can understand the ebb and flow.
When a male has gone into compartment thinking locking himself up tight in that one drawer, how does a woman relate to that male language? She is banished from him. In fact when she is banished from him, her stock in his life has just went to zero.
With a female multi-tasking is demanded of her. The world and the males look to the female as 'the secretary' doing this and that at the same time. Her body is even designed to multi-task ie: the baby on her hip as she does her laundry. If a woman is to survive she must come to an understanding of balancing the flow of her life.
100% of life - 90% of the unimportant = 10% IMPORTANT allows the female to better live her life. This opens up her love to flow out into her passions and pour out value to the loved ones close to her. However, because this formula works for both her and her male counterpart, the male banishment of her leaves her stock in his life and his matters valueless. She is shut off - basically unimportant.
No one language is more right than the other language. But suppose there is a way to bind up the languages where one is not banished but allowed together on a 'team language'?
A 'team language' must be spoken or both female and male are banished from each other forever in an unending cycle ... never knowing the true lesson of the journey is teamwork.
Value & Worth
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