"Mom, how do you know if a guy is real in what he is saying or if he is just ... wellll ... uh .. just wanting to get in your pants?" her daughter blurted out with a blush in her cheek for being so blantent to her poor mother.
"No easy questions are there?! I have to be very honest with you.... I do not totally understand what goes on in a man's brain. I have gotten confusing signals. You have to understand what reality is and what fake is. " The mother paused to collect her thoughts and experiences.
"Try questions as a way to figure out what is going to work for you and do not settle for anything less. Questions like: Is he going to fight for your beauty and honor? Is he going to marry you? Is he willing to make his home with you? Is he going to come home to you every night? Is he going to share himself with you? Is he going to flee cheating ways because of his respect and love for you? Is he honoring your beauty inside and out? Is he keeping your beauty clean from defilement of abuse whether it is sexual, verbal, or abandment? Is he strong enough for you? Is he willing to act on your behalf? Do you have to ask for attention or does he freely give you attention? Is he choosing you or did you snag him?" Looking deep into her daughter's eyes, she ached to make this easy but knew hearts break and they grow back stronger. She silently whispered a prayer of protection and safety...
"My hardest part was realizing that some men have a woman that he made a commitment to yet think they can have other women. Some know it is wrong and try to correct it and yet continue ... " The mother relived a couple of experiences and grew sad for the men that failed ....
"Just walk tall and know what you really want for your life journey and do not settle for less. Remember to always look into God's eyes. Marriage is a picture of God... His Warrior side and His Beauty side.... He is Real never a fake. A true marriage should always reflect God's Image" the mother hugged her daughter and sighed.
Love is a hard journey especially on a woman's heart. She is so relational and sees things that men cannot ....
mommy bear: a person needs
See what His heart for God looks like... If he is a man after God's heart he won't want to break his Beloved's heart... if he is a man who lives for God's heart, it is likely He won't deliberately break your heart too, he will treasure it and care for it...
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perfect words... thank you, Lovely
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