when the stars go blue ...

''I am sorry I gotta get be home by 5PM. Dad will be home and that is our time to eat supper together. You know the story,'' Mom said.

''You got it. I promise to have you home.'' The daughter knew of this phenomenon with her parents. Her mother had told her a few years ago. Sometimes it frustrated her yet she had come to this understanding to allow for her parents their time. She would probably never ever experience this in her life so it was something to marvel and entertain her thoughts...

* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * ''I think it would be neat to have some kind of gathering of my girlfriends when their kids get a bit older to catch up on old times and vacation together,'' the daughter was saying over lunch.

Mom couldn't make it so it was a conversation between father and daughter. ''I wouldn't want your mother to go off on a vacation like that ... It is to hard. I'm not even looking forward to D.C. work trip,'' Dad piped in. (He loves history)

''Yeah, it would be more fun to enjoy it with her,'' the daughter quickly added. She knew he didn't like being away from Mom. It isn't that they are joined at the hip. It is just something of a phenomenon that happens to married couples that have made their marriage work for over 20 plus years.

* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * This phenomenon of not being comfortable without your spouse even for a couple of nights or even on Sundays when one is working and the other is home alone when it is the usual family day occurs most often in the older generations. You often see it when a spouse quickly dies soon after their spouse dies. You might think this odd. But when you look at the years they spent making a marriage stick and work, you begin to see this phenomenon as maybe a good thing.

Having this separation aniexty won't be common place in the younger generations as the women either find their own standing on this world by the roles they have or be forced to live a single lifestyle. Kinda sad to think it out like this.

When you look at marriage it is really two people coming together to make a unit. It is like forming a new person in the ways two people mesh together. Interesting to find that ache to have that phenomenon deep inside but it is there ... isn't it?

. . . when the stars go blue ... i'll follow you . . .