dialects:
*gratitude
*inspire courage / encourage
*words of praise
*kind words / said in kindness / not just what we say but how we say
*able to clear hurt & forgive
*affirmations of character & actions
*appreciation
*claim victory
*declaring His Attributes
*giving voice to what you delight & savor
*ask kind questions to avoid pressing your personality/behavior upon others
If one wishes to be a lover, he must look carefully at the words he uses when he talks to coworkers, neighbors, close friends, parents, former spouses, roommates, and the sales clerk at the local store. What I say and the way I say it will influence the climate of my relationships. Words of affirmation enhance relationships. Harsh, condemning words destroy relationships.
Remember, love is a choice. Choose to love others.
fr: ''The Five Love Languages for Singles'' by Gary Chapman
Q: How freely do you express words of affirmation in your relationships?
Q: Is there a relationship you would like to enhance? Do you think speaking words of affirmation would be meaningful to that person?
My native love language is words of affirmation. I bask in the warmth of affirmations. I give out compliments all the time. I have learned from my Joy Journey to always delight and savor. It is my greatest strength to declare and stand firm on His Attributes. I am sensitive to the tone in which others speak. It says more than the actual words. I notice too that when I feel stretch thin and feel my love tank is empty, I tend to become quiet. I strongly despise people who spatter themselves all over me. They just take over like an elephant in a china shop when a meek and soft question would allow me to let them in. It is all about affirming words no matter if it is in the form of a question. I do have areas here that I want to improve especially when it comes to my eyes. My eyes tell too much and I hide them when the other person has hurt me or has annoyed me. To be a true lover, I must connect my eyes to what I say to empty the hurt and heal.
tank'en on love : place of beginning
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