Sunday discussion from little bro was about how he is one who has a certain criteria for love and if you do not love according to his ‘way’ then you are promptly written off. I guess they were discussing this in one of counseling or psychology classes. He went on to say that they have ‘couple friendship’ started by a fellow classmate who is alike when it comes to having a criteria for love. Little bro and his wife do not take people seriously on the ‘oh, lets get together and do stuff’. Most never get back to them. Well, this other couple has totally surprised them by following through.
Back to the having ‘certain criteria for love and being written off if you don’t follow the list’ –
This stuck me. I probably … well … most likely … ok honesty here … I am the same way. I should have asked if the ‘teacher or the class’ felt it was wrong. Maybe I don’t want an answer because I happen to have strong feelings about it.
I have been ‘fixing’ myself for so long that I don’t want anyone else doing so. No, I am not bull headed about it. I listen and I am soft towards my need to change. I, however, am quite leery of adding more fat to my fat suit. I, too, am a fighter and it is very hard to keep the hands off the wheel when I am trying to right myself. I give all I can and if you choose to not need me, I won’t be where I am not wanted. And if you can’t give what I need, I have been painfully learning to be more carefree in my love. So there is a bit of my criteria for love.
About promptly being written off-
This is not taken lightly! There is pain and anguish in what I have done wrong and what to do about it. After hurting so much, you just pick yourself and dust off and give in to letting go. When you do, the release is so great it feels right. You realize it is better to be more carefree when it comes to love. Never expect love to come your way but you sure better give it.
The Life Journey is so designed by God that I trust it more than I do from human opinions..
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